Well last Friday was Travis and I’s 5 year anniversary and yes of course we had a 5 year plan! Did we achieve it? Yes, no, maybe, but who cares we’re still married, in love and happy.
Here’s just a little advice I can give you after my 5 years experience.
Fight – Yes put it right up there on the top of your list, because if you don’t fight you won’t sort anything out, and that usually makes something so small a really huge issue. Oh and don’t forget to kiss and make up (it’s the best part)
Be Friends – I know you hear it all the time ‘he’s my best friend’ BUT it’s so important! If you can’t stand each other’s company it makes for a really high phone bill. Try doing things together like a hobby a sport or even a house project.
Be prepared for surprises – Yes after 5 years there are still things you don’t know about each other. Just remember why you got married in the first place and that you have made a commitment. Sort it out, work through it and seek counselling if you must.
Don’t let the romance die – It’s true, the ‘honeymoon period’ is not a myth, but there are subtle hints you can drop when he’s not treating you like a princess. Don’t be too scared or too stubborn to drop those hints, men are forgetful and need to be reminded who the centre of their universe is. Oh and you should also make an effort now and then J
Communicate & plan together – this is extremely obvious but SO SO important! You need to know what’s going on in each others lives and in your household. If he handles the finances make sure you keep yourself up to date and visa versa.
Don’t Neglect yourself – By this I mean the 2 obvious things 1) physically - Be beautiful, feel beautiful – believe me it makes world of difference in bed when your confidence levels are way up there. 2) Mentally – Challenge yourself, study something new, or change your career. Or if you have children, be the best mom on the planet! Give yourself goals to work towards everyday even if it’s simply cooking your best meal yet – and compliment yourself along with the others.
Lastly – Have each others back!
I’ll stop now, it’s only 5 years, I know as time goes on I’ll learn a lot more.
Lots of love
Mich
